Dating feels different when you already like your life. You may have a home you enjoy, family relationships that matter, work with demands of its own, and routines you have no particular interest in dismantling for someone you met three Thursdays ago.
Compatibility later in life asks a more practical question than attraction alone. Author Paul Harkins takes that adult reality seriously in The Refrigerator Test, a 32-chapter book about dating, compatibility, and the lives people bring with them.
Attraction Has to Meet an Existing Life
A relationship that begins later in adulthood often starts after both people have made important choices about how they want to live. The career, home, friendships, family commitments, and personal rhythms are already real.
